Goals For The Rest Of The Year

After a month away from the blog I’ve went through a small transformation, kind of like a butterfly wiggling out of its cocoon. It was uncomfortable, confining, and scary but I think it’s for the best. 

I shed a relationship which I think is better as a friendship. I did learn a lot from the time we were together that I’ll carry with me for the rest of my life. I also relocated jobs, I landed a full time at the beginning of October which I love. The company is two companies under one roof so it’s super fast paced and there was and still is a lot to learn.

Sitting back reflecting on the year made me realize I’ve pretty much been living on autopilot too, just going through the motions day after day.

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As for goals to achieve throughout the rest of the year:

• To become emotionally aware

• Keep trying to heal emotional wounds

• Becoming more comfortable and confident with myself

• Putting the focus back on freelance writing

This year has been tough, dad passed away in February which took a lot out of me and I’ve been struggling a lot since then but I am trying to deal with all the feelings that come with loosing someone, not just anyone but a parent. It all happened so suddenly, if I knew then what I know now I would’ve forced him to seek out help. I’m still trying to pick up all the pieces of my broken heart. November is also his birthday month, so there is that too.

I’m shifting into a healthier lifestyle, everything that happened this year made me realize ya only get one body and one life (as you’re not a cat), it needs to be nurtured and looked after with care not stuffed with greasy cheeseburgers and pizzas. The cooler weather makes it easier to get out for walks on the regular, which is the plan. 

I have an amazing freelance client who I’ve been working with all year, she is kind of the perfect client actually. She’s been so understanding throughout the projects we’ve worked on. She offered me a huge project that i am very lucky to have the opportunity. I want to settle down, focus, and create killer content. 

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10 Things That Make Me Happy Everyday

I’m not going to lie, some days are better than others. I’m trying to be more mindful as I go about my day, doing so I’ve picked up on things that make me happy. I can enjoy these thing that make me happy almost everyday if not everyday. 

It makes me happy to be in nature too, I don’t do it nearly enough though. A trip to the beach a few weeks ago reminded me of that. Since summer is drawing to a close maybe a few hikes will be in the books for the fall/winter, I do love going to the beach during the winter too though. It has such a different feel, I just love it.

Anything i can do to put a smile on my face or have a moment of calm in the anxiety driven mind I have; I’ll take it. 

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  1. Watching my kitty sleep – and boy does he sleep a lot, he is pretty much level expert. 
  2. Seeing all the beautiful colors in the sky from dawn to dusk.
  3. Gazing at the moon and stars – if I didn’t know any better I’d think I was an alien.
  4. Reese’s Pieces – need I say more?
  5. The love I have in my heart – it’s full and I try to be kind and spread it around all day. It takes 2 seconds to say “thank you” or give a compliment.
  6. Practicing mindfulness everyday – it really helps to keep you grounded.
  7. Having a sense of fulfillment in my life – it’s been awhile if ever I’ve felt this. I started a new job September 10th, I have a loving family and friends.
  8. Fluffy blankets – I love getting lost in all of its puffiness.
  9. Crystals – I have my favorites that I carry around with me daily but I love them all. I’m currently carrying around a tumbled Rose Quartz.
  10. Sleeping in – I absolutely love to sleep so on the weekends I do take advantage.

What makes you happy everyday?

Monthly Goals: September 2018

I started September 1st off with a morning walk, it was only 2.5 miles but it felt great to let the fresh air fill my lungs and hear the birds chirping. I stopped into Target on my way home and picked up some Pink Lemonade drink packets and Olly Multivitamin Women’s gummies.

I’ve been in a slump this year. I haven’t been eating right, I haven’t been exercising, not doing yoga, no meditation. I’ve been feeling the effects of everything I’m not doing though. 

Finding out my dad was sick ((put dad post here) then him passing away only 18 short days later, this year has been filled with lots of tears, sorrows, and grief. I’ve tried to deal with it the best I can but I won’t lie, some days are just hard. 

I need to keep busy so I’ve decided to leave the part time job at the doctors office and took a full time job, my official first day is September 10th, wish me luck?! I do better when I’m on a routine. I loved freelance writing and would love to do it full time but it’s not healthy in the state I’ve been in this year to spend that much time at home. 

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Walk 30 miles // technicality that is only a mile a day, which seems totally doable. I’ll be moving around more at this new job than I did at the doctors office. 

Eat more fruits & veggies // I’ve rediscovered how delicious fruits are! I’ve tried new veggies and I need more of them in my life. Less processed foods and questionable beef. 

Read one book // I use to read two or three books a month, however now I’m down to zero. I’ll be adding this to my bedtime routine. It’ll be good to get out of my mind for an hour or two every night. 

Do more makeup // I’ve never worn anything other than mascara and eyeliner. I picked up BareMinerals powder foundation a year ago but have just started using it. I’ve switched to BareMinerals liquid BarePro Performance Wear liquid foundation (shop here to get 15% off your order), it makes my skin feel fresh all day even if I happen to break a sweat.

I think I might’ve fallen in love with makeup, I won’t become a beauty blogger but I’ll be watching a few tutorials. I had no idea it would make me so confident in myself. I was in a tornado when I was 3 which left me with broken blood vessels on my face, the BarePro Performance liquid foundation you can’t tell at all! It completely covers all blemishes and I’m grateful it doesn’t irritate my sensitive skin.

Lose 5 pounds // I gained a lot of weight late last year and into this year, I won’t lie. I want to start a healthy lifestyle off this month by losing 5 pounds. If I eat right and move enough I know I can make it happen. Any tips and tricks you have would be greatly appreciated!

Hit 500 Twitter followers // I forgot how much fun it was to connect with others on Twitter. I started the month with 400 but let’s see if I can make it to 500. If you like what you see, please hit that follow button. 

Put together YouTube channel // I have an idea for a Youtube channel. I’m extremely shy when it comes to videos and photos so this may take a little time. I’ve never had a Youtube channel before so again, any advice?

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How Travel Feeds the Soul

After taking a long trip, you can come back a different person. There’s something about the experience that changes you. But what exactly is it? I’ve long claimed that travel is good for the soul. (It’s a good fallback when people ask you why you’re spending your savings on trips overseas instead of investing in property.) But researching it more has shown me some solid evidence on how travel can actually feed the best parts of ourselves, make us better people, and strengthen those aspects of our lives that give us lasting happiness.

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New Settings Force Us to Think Differently

A study recently published in the Academy of Management Journal posited that professionals who lived and worked abroad were more creative than their counterpoints at home. Why? Adapting to another culture than our own forces us to develop cognitive creativity. And that creativity carries over into parts of our life. We’re able to creatively problem-solve, as in the case of one study that found that students living abroad were 20% more likely to be able to solve a particular computer problem.

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Think about how many ramifications that could have in our daily life. Not only does it make us better at work. It also makes us better in our relationships, because we’re able to understand multiple points of view. We’re able to express ourselves better creatively, a practice that literally helps you physically and mentally heal.

Most of all, it gives us a welcome new perspective on our own lives, which is the foundation of most experiential rehab programs. New environments, new experiences, and new perspectives can all help us problem-solve trials and challenges in our day-to-day lives. We learn and practice new skills that greatly serve us in our future.

 

Travelers Are More Trusting

The world can be a scary place, right? Sometimes, the more we listen to sensational headlines, the more it seems like just about everyone is out to get us. However, when you actually take a step outside of your comfort zone, instead of reading about it in the newspaper, you’ll usually find two amazing truths:

  1. Most people are good
  2. You can handle this

Traveling automatically puts you in a vulnerable situation. Clueless about your environment, about the shortcuts and social cues that locals take for granted, about the resources, cultural norms, and environmental dangers, it’s easy to fall prey to scams, over-inflated prices, and petty theft. And if you like movies like “Hostel” or “Taken” you might start believing that a ticket to Europe is equivalent to a casting call for a horror movie.

But once you stay in a couple hostels, you realize this: the people who will actually steal your stuff are the exception, not the rule. And once you’ve been helped by a few friendly locals, you realize that most people will not hesitate to go out of their way to help someone in need. In fact, a couple weeks abroad will probably make you feel ashamed about how you treat foreigners in your own hometown. This doesn’t mean that you stop taking smart precautions, like keeping your phone secure, or keeping your hotel’s phone number handy. However, it means that you trust those precautions, as well as the people around you.

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And then there’s that second truth: You can handle this. It’s all about making a practice of overcoming fears. Traveling encourages you to step out of your comfort zone over and over again. When you do so, you usually find that you can handle those things that come your way. I’m not about to promise you that you won’t run into any challenges as you travel. However, once you get lost a couple times and then manage to get yourself out of a jam or two, you’ll start to gain confidence in yourself. And as you do, you become free from fear.

 

You Learn to Love the Small Things

Something that never ceases to amaze me about travel is how it helps us to appreciate even the most commonplace things. With a traveler’s eyes, I’m transfixed by everyday things, fiercely snapping photos of the town square locals walk past every day, awed by churches that they attend each week, stunned by a meal that is just a regular dinner to anyone else.

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Because of this, it makes me start to think about those things that are unique to the place that I call home. I love watching how enchanted travelers are by the fat squirrels in London’s Hyde Park, creatures that to me are little more than a nuisance. I love talking to people about where I’m from as I travel, because it often sends them into a flurry of excitement, talking about their trip to one of the West’s National Parks. And when I come home, my time away has just made everything familiar that much more special. Travel makes me grateful for those things that I’m otherwise inclined to take for granted. And as you know, gratitude is one of the most direct routes to happiness and fulfillment.

5 Simple Things To Know When Moving In With Your Significant Other

5 Simple Things To Know When Moving In With Your Significant Other

Moving in with a significant other is certainly an exciting step in a relationship, but it can also be a stressful one. There are bills to cover, chores to divide and suddenly you’re faced with a lot less alone time than you’re used to. One of the biggest stresses you might not expect can be trying to find a way to peacefully blend your decor into one cohesive look. But it is possible to create a space you’ll both love without ripping each other’s heads off. These are a few quick tips for surviving the process!

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Upcycle Your New Style
Blending styles certainly doesn’t mean you have to go out and buy all new furniture to make it fit your new decor. There are plenty of easy DIY solutions to upcycle your current pieces and create a customized look. My post on the basics of upcycling furniture should be a great guide to help you get started on transforming your existing furniture. Going thrift shopping together can also be a fun way to find unique pieces to make over together that will work for your new place.

Give Their Style A Chance
An important tip throughout this process is to not write off your partner’s style right away. Even if their suggestions seem kooky or out there, give them a chance to show you their ideas and really consider if they’ll work in your home. You might find yourself liking some of their ideas that normally wouldn’t be up your alley. Moving in together is a great chance to expose yourself to new ways of doing things, including home decor.

Get Professional Help
Trying to figure out how to blend your classic, girly style with your boyfriend’s masculine, industrial tastes can sound impossible, but the good news is there are professionals out there who can help. Enlist the help of an online interior designer who can create a design that blends both of your decor preferences. They might even help you discover a brand new aesthetic you can both fall in love with that you never would’ve considered before. Best of all, they can be the ones who break it to your partner that his ratty Scarface poster from college isn’tgoing to work for the design in your new shared space.

Agree On A Color Palette
You can make two very different design styles work cohesively in one room with a unified color palette. Check out what colors you’re both already drawn to in your decor or use a color scheme generator to create a palette you can come to an agreement on. Once you’ve done this, it will be easier to incorporate decor pieces in a united way, even if your preferred styles are wildly different.
Pick Your Battles
You’re not going to be able to get your way on every design choice so talk to your partner about which spaces in your home are most important to you. Maybe you couldn’t care less about place settings, but creating a serene bathroom is important to your sanity. Or you know that your significant other will spend a lot of time in the office, but you prefer to work in the living room. These things will help you decide who should get the final say on certain decisions and avoid unnecessary arguments. Being open about what’s important to you and what isn’t will be key in creating a balanced style that represents both of you equally!

5 Ways To Deal With Anxiety At Work

5 Ways To Deal With Anxiety At Work

Anxiety: A mental health disorder characterized by feelings of worry, anxiety, or fear that are strong enough to interfere with one’s daily activities.

Anxiety is a tricky monster that is currently along side almost 40 million people to date. For me my symptoms at any given time range from: fatigue, sweating, worrying, heart palpitations, not being able to focus, and irritability. Which may lead to a panic attack at any time.

In the mornings while I’m getting ready for work a flood of anxiety can come over me, if i let it. Thoughts of how bad traffic will be, if there is a wreck that will be sure to make me late, then onto how busy the day will be and if I will make any mistakes, or the mistakes I made a week before creep into my mind.

I sat down to try and help others that experience morning anxiety as well, you can read “setting up your morning to combat anxiety“ and hopefully find it helpful. I tried to pick up on anything and everything that helps me, to help you too.

Once you’re at work any triggers can be set off throughout the day. So you don’t find yourself locked in a bathroom stall or crying your eyes out in your car there are a few different ways to handle your anxieties at work.

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Know your triggers – this is the very first tool in your toolkit. If you know your triggers then you’ll know what to watch for.

Build a grounding techniques – notice objects around you. Take notice of the sounds around you. Notice a scent coming from around you. By giving your brain something to distract from your anxieties you’ll gain a sense of calming.

Ask for what you may need – flexible scheduling, a mental health day.

Break things down – as long as your meeting your deadlines, you’ll be able to turn a task into several micro tasks. This will keep you focused and help with being overwhelmed.

Take a time out – take just a few minutes and take a few deep breaths. This is not hindering your work progress nor is it bothersome to anyone else around you. Although it may feel like your world is crashing in on you try to remember it’s not obvious to anyone else.

A few things to keep in mind when you’re anxious: you are bigger than your anxieties, don’t let them tell you how to feel, you are just giving into the feelings of your anxieties. Remember that it WILL pass, you will come out on the other side.

I like to keep my lavender essential oil with me at all times, just Incase I need a little dab behind the ears or across the wrist.

When I get home I’ll do some journaling about the day and how I felt to see if I by chance develop new triggers. I like to flow through my anxiety yoga sequence  as well.

I hope you’ve found these ideas helpful. Anxiety is a terrible thing full of different emotions that can be difficult or crippling at times. I’d like to hear ways that help you cope with anxiety at work.

Monthly Goals: June 2018

Monthly Goals: June 2018

Hello June, thank you for bringing gorgeous weather, chirping birdies, and time for adventures outside! 

Who else is excited that June is here? What are your plans for this month? New months are always fun because there is a little surprise in store for each. That is the beauty of life after all, isn’t it?

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Monthly Goals: June 2018

Freelancing // I’d like to expand a little. Although I work 5 days every 2 weeks at the part time job I’d like to pick up another freelance client or two. I am currently working with one and I absolutely love it! I feel like I am getting my footing.

Time management // I am horrible at time management, even when I KNOW I have things to do I may wait until the last minute to get it done. So I am going to try working on this in June. I’ll try by waking up 5-10 minutes earlier each week instead of peeling myself out of bed, taking a 5 minute shower, then rushing to get dressed and head out the door.

Saying no // I’ve been practicing this very recently, to say no to things that I don’t find suit me or on days I know I need a break. I recently said no to a day out and opted for a massage. Needless to say I felt great days afterwards too.

Blog // I would one to focus on the blog too. I’d love for this month to be the best month since I’ve owned this domain. The first six months of owning it I didn’t really do anything with it, I’d like to change that. June 21st is my one year blog anniversary, I can’t believe how fast time has gone by!

Meditation // I’m rather new to meditation. Though I’ve done yoga for years I’ve never gotten into meditation. People I’ve talked to who do meditate praise it, so I’m going to give it a try. With every little thought giving way to four different thoughts, I need a way to clear my mind and give it a break.

These are in no real order who has time for that, but I hope I’ll get slightly better with organizing too.

8 Bad Habits To Break

8 Bad Habits To Break

I’ve become more aware of my bad habits as I’ve gotten older. Not all of these habits steam from childhood, some I have picked up along the way. Allowing them to hitch hike along the road of my journey.

It’s due time I let them off to find the nearest bus stop. I no longer want to drag these bad habits around with me, so it’s best if they find shelter elsewhere.

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Sleeping until the last minute
I’d love to start waking up early on mornings I work. I love to sleep so I usually sleep until 6:30am, have a 8 minute shower, use my liner & mascara, pick out an outfit, head out the door. No wonder I’m always feeling rushed!

Not preparing for the next day
I admire people that pick out their outfits the night before. It seems like a simple enough task, so why is it so hard for me?!

Failing to make a “to do” list a priority
I kind of do things as I think of them. Which is totally unproductive because then I get overwhelmed. I think having a prioritized to do list would help tremendously.

Trying to always be in control
I’m more than positive my anxiety has a ton to do with this nasty little habit. It’s draining and exhausting! I need to realize I have no say in what the universe has in store for me. I seem to think as long as I am in control I won’t disappoint anyone but myself if things go south.

Self doubt / feeling insecure
I have no idea where most of my self confidence up and went. I think it’s because in reality 2017 was an extremely tough year for me. I lost track of important things, gained weight, struggled with my mental & psychical health.

Overthinking
This is a huge one to say the least. I overthink everything, even what I might eat for lunch. I feel like if I overthink it then I won’t be surprised of the outcome because I’d already analyzed everything to death.

Procrastination
I’ve always been a procrastinator, since I can remember. There is nothing like saving everything until the last minute and then have a full blown panic attack.

Being indecisive
I am the worst at this! It’s hard for me to pick a choice and stick with it. Picking a place for dinner or lunch reservations is near to impossible. This bad habit is also time consuming and so aggravating.