Goals For The Rest Of The Year

After a month away from the blog I’ve went through a small transformation, kind of like a butterfly wiggling out of its cocoon. It was uncomfortable, confining, and scary but I think it’s for the best. 

I shed a relationship which I think is better as a friendship. I did learn a lot from the time we were together that I’ll carry with me for the rest of my life. I also relocated jobs, I landed a full time at the beginning of October which I love. The company is two companies under one roof so it’s super fast paced and there was and still is a lot to learn.

Sitting back reflecting on the year made me realize I’ve pretty much been living on autopilot too, just going through the motions day after day.

Goals For The Rest Of The Year #goals #lifestyle

As for goals to achieve throughout the rest of the year:

• To become emotionally aware

• Keep trying to heal emotional wounds

• Becoming more comfortable and confident with myself

• Putting the focus back on freelance writing

This year has been tough, dad passed away in February which took a lot out of me and I’ve been struggling a lot since then but I am trying to deal with all the feelings that come with loosing someone, not just anyone but a parent. It all happened so suddenly, if I knew then what I know now I would’ve forced him to seek out help. I’m still trying to pick up all the pieces of my broken heart. November is also his birthday month, so there is that too.

I’m shifting into a healthier lifestyle, everything that happened this year made me realize ya only get one body and one life (as you’re not a cat), it needs to be nurtured and looked after with care not stuffed with greasy cheeseburgers and pizzas. The cooler weather makes it easier to get out for walks on the regular, which is the plan. 

I have an amazing freelance client who I’ve been working with all year, she is kind of the perfect client actually. She’s been so understanding throughout the projects we’ve worked on. She offered me a huge project that i am very lucky to have the opportunity. I want to settle down, focus, and create killer content. 

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Getting Yourself Out of a Slump

We’ve all had those periods before… those times when we feel stuck in a rut. Times when we can’t see any progress happening in either our personal or our professional lives… and we’re not even sure what kind of progress we want. Times when it’s all too easy to just hide in your room, binge a show on Netflix, and eat your weight in Cheetos.

But it doesn’t take long to realize that that’s not really what we want. And so, here are some helpful suggestions to get you out of that slump, and back on track.

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Take the Power Back

A million different things can spur this kind of phase, from a difficult breakup, to a professional failure, to stress and anxiety, or even boredom. The cause doesn’t really matter. What’s important to realize is that no matter what led to your slump, you have the power to overcome it. You really do! You have the power to return to a thriving, joyful, goal-oriented person. But it may not happen all at once, and it won’t happen if you just sit there and wait for something to happen to you.

That’s what can be the most alarming thing about a slump. We might fall into a pattern of thinking that “if only…” something would happen, it’d fix us. If only our ex came back, if only inspiration could strike and you could write a hit single, if only you won the lottery, or an amazing opportunity just dropped into your lap… It’s important to not depend on external sources to get out of this slump. It’s yours to own, and yours to conquer. Even if everything in the outside world is working against you, you have the power inside of you to make positive change in your life, and it starts as soon as you decide it does.

 

Get Depression Treatment, If Necessary

As I’m writing about getting out of a slump, I want to be clear about something. While all of these approaches can help to mitigate depression, there are many factors that contribute to your likelihood of depression, and not all of them can be eliminated simply through healthy habits. If you really do have clinical depression, you might need outside help from a professional. If you feel sad and hopeless the majority of the time, if this “slump” is lasting more than a month, or if you’re having thoughts of suicide or self-harm, it’s important to reach outside of yourself for help. Life doesn’t have to be this way, and things can get better.

Alright, with that disclaimer taken care of, let’s look at some habit changes that will really change your motivation and mood patterns.

 

Work Out. Really. Just Do It.

I know you’ve heard it a million times, and I know that it’s just turned into white noise but really. Listen to me: Exercise. Exercise really has a powerful effect on our mood. Some studies have found daily exercise (even non-strenuous exercise) is just as powerful as medication in alleviating depression. Additionally, it can greatly help us get better sleep (a common challenge in “the slump.”)

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Okay, now, you’ve probably resolved to work out steadily several times in your life. But that’s the thing about the slump… it sucks away your resolve to get things done, and you find yourself constantly thinking “I’ll start tomorrow.” Here are some ways that you can really make it happen:

  • Sign up for a class. If you’re having a hard time being self-motivated, then a class can really help you get the exercise you need. Sign up with a friend; someone who will hold you accountable.
  • Break it down into tiny steps. If “going to the gym and running 3 miles” is just too daunting a task, break it down. Force yourself to change into gym clothes. Then to drive to the gym. Then to go in and walk once around the track. I know this sounds silly, but it’s almost like tricking a child into going to bed by just doing it in tiny phases. “Fine, just brush your teeth then you can play more. Okay, now just get your pajamas on. Now we’re just going to read a book in your room, you don’t have to sleep yet.”
  • Delay your reward. Did you get home from work today looking forward to nothing but that Kit Kat bar in the pantry? Go ahead and tell yourself you can have the candy bar… but only if you work out first. Remember that it’s going to taste that much better for being a reward.

 

Write Down Some Very Small Goals

The slump feeds off of a very particular sick cycle: (1) You know you need to do stuff, but (2) you feel crappy and don’t want to do it. (3) You don’t do it. (4) You feel annoyed with yourself, and even more crappy. (5) You keep not doing it… or anything.

Even small goals accomplished can break the cycle. So start here: write down a list of really incremental goals. Even small things that don’t seem like they should classify as “tasks.” Like… finishing washing the dishes in the sink. Doing a load of laundry. Making a call that you’ve been postponing. After you’ve made the list, resolve to do three things on it every day. Sure, maybe they’re tiny things that you would have had to do anyway: taking a shower, filling the gas tank, etc. But as you get in the habit of ticking off three things each day, you can start getting more ambitious: clean out the car, make a healthy meal for yourself, go to a dental appointment.

What’s really great about this method is that you start feeling better about yourself because of these small victories. Pretty soon, you’ll start to crave that victory more and more.

 

Watch Your Intake

Okay, now it’s time to do a little bit of a detox. Often, in the slump, we start to rely on unhealthy habits to get us through. We over-eat sugar, over-utilize caffeine to get going in the morning, or over-drink, just… because. Take a look at any unhealthy habits that you’re using as a crutch and consider how they could actually be harming more than helping. Alcohol, sugar, and caffeine all have a major influence on our energy levels, and even our moods, leading to peaks and crashes that you just can’t afford anymore. Start to moderate your crutch-substances as much as possible.

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Write Down Some Very Ambitious Goals

Now that you’ve taken care of some small goals, start thinking about bigger ones. And I mean bigger. The kinds of things you put on your bucket list. The kinds of things you build a 5-year plan around. What do you want to accomplish in life? Where do you want to go? Who do you want to become? Start thinking really seriously about future goals and realize that they’re yours to make come true. As you write them down, and start to think about them more and more, your pathway will become more clear, and you’ll be able to break down the ambitious goals into smaller goals that you can start in on one day at a time. Perhaps it could be useful to you to create a vision board that can remind you of those goals and visualize them more clearly.

 

Talk To Someone Every Day

In a slump, we tend to withdraw. It can become a terrible cycle, because we move ourselves away from the resources that could help us feel more positive. And yet… being around people can just feel like too much. This is especially true if you’re not someone who naturally thrives off of sociality. If that’s the case, then you might have to make this something on your daily checklist of small goals. But it’s worth it, I promise.

Even if you’re the most introvert-y of introverts, you need other humans. We’re social creatures, and our greatest joys and happinesses come from relationships. And so, it’s time to flex your happiness muscles by flexing your sociality. Make a goal to have at least one real conversation each day; I’m not talking about saying hi to the bus driver. I mean actually talking with someone. Give a friend a call and catch up. Ask a coworker about their day. Smile at someone next to you in the checkout line and see how they’re doing. Not every interaction is going to be everything you want. But the vast majority of them are going to enrich your day.

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Appreciate a Miracle

This last one might seem strange at first. I mean, you can’t just schedule a miracle… that’s why they’re called miracles; they come out of nowhere! Hear me out. There are things in this earth that make us pause and take notice. Beautiful things that remind us that life is exciting, and rich, and worth savoring. Everyone probably has their own list. But this is mine:

  • Spend time with a dog.
  • Learn a new scientific fact.
  • Read some poetry.
  • Get up close and personal with nature (i.e. sit under a tree, dig your toes into the sand, find a beautiful view, go on a hike.)
  • Do an activity with children.
  • Go somewhere where you can see the stars.
  • Say twice-daily prayers of gratitude.

Monthly Goals: September 2018

I started September 1st off with a morning walk, it was only 2.5 miles but it felt great to let the fresh air fill my lungs and hear the birds chirping. I stopped into Target on my way home and picked up some Pink Lemonade drink packets and Olly Multivitamin Women’s gummies.

I’ve been in a slump this year. I haven’t been eating right, I haven’t been exercising, not doing yoga, no meditation. I’ve been feeling the effects of everything I’m not doing though. 

Finding out my dad was sick ((put dad post here) then him passing away only 18 short days later, this year has been filled with lots of tears, sorrows, and grief. I’ve tried to deal with it the best I can but I won’t lie, some days are just hard. 

I need to keep busy so I’ve decided to leave the part time job at the doctors office and took a full time job, my official first day is September 10th, wish me luck?! I do better when I’m on a routine. I loved freelance writing and would love to do it full time but it’s not healthy in the state I’ve been in this year to spend that much time at home. 

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Walk 30 miles // technicality that is only a mile a day, which seems totally doable. I’ll be moving around more at this new job than I did at the doctors office. 

Eat more fruits & veggies // I’ve rediscovered how delicious fruits are! I’ve tried new veggies and I need more of them in my life. Less processed foods and questionable beef. 

Read one book // I use to read two or three books a month, however now I’m down to zero. I’ll be adding this to my bedtime routine. It’ll be good to get out of my mind for an hour or two every night. 

Do more makeup // I’ve never worn anything other than mascara and eyeliner. I picked up BareMinerals powder foundation a year ago but have just started using it. I’ve switched to BareMinerals liquid BarePro Performance Wear liquid foundation (shop here to get 15% off your order), it makes my skin feel fresh all day even if I happen to break a sweat.

I think I might’ve fallen in love with makeup, I won’t become a beauty blogger but I’ll be watching a few tutorials. I had no idea it would make me so confident in myself. I was in a tornado when I was 3 which left me with broken blood vessels on my face, the BarePro Performance liquid foundation you can’t tell at all! It completely covers all blemishes and I’m grateful it doesn’t irritate my sensitive skin.

Lose 5 pounds // I gained a lot of weight late last year and into this year, I won’t lie. I want to start a healthy lifestyle off this month by losing 5 pounds. If I eat right and move enough I know I can make it happen. Any tips and tricks you have would be greatly appreciated!

Hit 500 Twitter followers // I forgot how much fun it was to connect with others on Twitter. I started the month with 400 but let’s see if I can make it to 500. If you like what you see, please hit that follow button. 

Put together YouTube channel // I have an idea for a Youtube channel. I’m extremely shy when it comes to videos and photos so this may take a little time. I’ve never had a Youtube channel before so again, any advice?

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Monthly Goals: June 2018

Monthly Goals: June 2018

Hello June, thank you for bringing gorgeous weather, chirping birdies, and time for adventures outside! 

Who else is excited that June is here? What are your plans for this month? New months are always fun because there is a little surprise in store for each. That is the beauty of life after all, isn’t it?

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Monthly Goals: June 2018

Freelancing // I’d like to expand a little. Although I work 5 days every 2 weeks at the part time job I’d like to pick up another freelance client or two. I am currently working with one and I absolutely love it! I feel like I am getting my footing.

Time management // I am horrible at time management, even when I KNOW I have things to do I may wait until the last minute to get it done. So I am going to try working on this in June. I’ll try by waking up 5-10 minutes earlier each week instead of peeling myself out of bed, taking a 5 minute shower, then rushing to get dressed and head out the door.

Saying no // I’ve been practicing this very recently, to say no to things that I don’t find suit me or on days I know I need a break. I recently said no to a day out and opted for a massage. Needless to say I felt great days afterwards too.

Blog // I would one to focus on the blog too. I’d love for this month to be the best month since I’ve owned this domain. The first six months of owning it I didn’t really do anything with it, I’d like to change that. June 21st is my one year blog anniversary, I can’t believe how fast time has gone by!

Meditation // I’m rather new to meditation. Though I’ve done yoga for years I’ve never gotten into meditation. People I’ve talked to who do meditate praise it, so I’m going to give it a try. With every little thought giving way to four different thoughts, I need a way to clear my mind and give it a break.

These are in no real order who has time for that, but I hope I’ll get slightly better with organizing too.

8 Bad Habits To Break

8 Bad Habits To Break

I’ve become more aware of my bad habits as I’ve gotten older. Not all of these habits steam from childhood, some I have picked up along the way. Allowing them to hitch hike along the road of my journey.

It’s due time I let them off to find the nearest bus stop. I no longer want to drag these bad habits around with me, so it’s best if they find shelter elsewhere.

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Sleeping until the last minute
I’d love to start waking up early on mornings I work. I love to sleep so I usually sleep until 6:30am, have a 8 minute shower, use my liner & mascara, pick out an outfit, head out the door. No wonder I’m always feeling rushed!

Not preparing for the next day
I admire people that pick out their outfits the night before. It seems like a simple enough task, so why is it so hard for me?!

Failing to make a “to do” list a priority
I kind of do things as I think of them. Which is totally unproductive because then I get overwhelmed. I think having a prioritized to do list would help tremendously.

Trying to always be in control
I’m more than positive my anxiety has a ton to do with this nasty little habit. It’s draining and exhausting! I need to realize I have no say in what the universe has in store for me. I seem to think as long as I am in control I won’t disappoint anyone but myself if things go south.

Self doubt / feeling insecure
I have no idea where most of my self confidence up and went. I think it’s because in reality 2017 was an extremely tough year for me. I lost track of important things, gained weight, struggled with my mental & psychical health.

Overthinking
This is a huge one to say the least. I overthink everything, even what I might eat for lunch. I feel like if I overthink it then I won’t be surprised of the outcome because I’d already analyzed everything to death.

Procrastination
I’ve always been a procrastinator, since I can remember. There is nothing like saving everything until the last minute and then have a full blown panic attack.

Being indecisive
I am the worst at this! It’s hard for me to pick a choice and stick with it. Picking a place for dinner or lunch reservations is near to impossible. This bad habit is also time consuming and so aggravating.

Lets Kick Negative Talk

Lets Kick Negative Talk

This is a sticky subject for me as i have dealt with it myself since i was a teenager. One moment you feel like your on top of the world but the next moment it’s almost like your 6ft under ground.

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Let’s get real..

Sometimes we don’t like ourselves. We could have done better on promoting our work, this mornings run, last nights tennis round, or devouring that cupcake for lunch faster.

Let’s kick the negative talk!

Sure, you have friends.  They are everywhere and they complement your hair, nails, the fact you did your makeup and look like an honorable member of society.

 

I get it

I do. Sometimes you just look at yourself in the mirror and totally downgrade yourself with thoughts like (or maybe you talk to your cat) “you’ve gained some weight”, “oh you can’t go for a run but you can binge watch “How To Get Away With Murder” for 3 hours”, “you bombed that 2,500 word essay genius”.

We all do it, even that friend that you think is perfect and secretly wish she’d fall and break her stiletto and pinky toe. Don’t be like that.

We as women should believe in and empower one another. The world is hard enough as it is!

Let’s kick the negative talk!

You are going to be by your side for the rest of your life, so you’d better like yourself.

8 Yoga Poses For Anxiety

8 Yoga Poses For Anxiety

Anxiety is the most common mental illness, it effects about 40 million Americans. If you haven’t been diagnosed with anxiety chances are you still experience stress in your everyday life.

Practicing yoga is a great stress relief, with each breathe you feel your body let go of worry, tension, and anxieties. The focus yoga puts on the body helps give way anxiety to thoughts of mindfulness and peace.

Symptoms of anxiety disorder:
– You feel panicked, uneasy, or scared
– Frequent heart palpitations
– You have trouble sleeping
– Excessive worry
– Fatigue
– Restlessness
– Poor concentration

If you’ve experienced or are currently experiencing any of these symptoms make sure to let your family physician know so you can help get it under control; your not alone.

When anxiety finds its way to me I like to do a sequence of yoga poses. You may be thinking “how are yoga poses going to help me right now?!”, Yoga is a great untapped resource by a lot of people. The poses help by releasing stressors and anxieties with concentration on the body and breathing.

Giving your mind something other than your anxieties to focus on. If your willing give these poses a try and tell me how you feel afterwards. The outcome will be a welcomed relief and you’ll have a smile on your face once the sequence is finished.

I am in no way shape or form a doctor or a yoga instructor, I am sharing what I know to help me. If you’ve had or have back problems or shoulder problems do not try this without consent from your doctor.

8 Yoga Poses For Anxiety

Childs Pose

Sit on your knees that are spaced shoulder-width apart. Take a deep breath and lower your torso down towards your thighs, extending your arms forward. Rest your forehead on the mat and breathe deeply.

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Corpse Pose

you’re basically laying down with arms at your side, mentally the corpse pose can be difficult. The goal is to relax your mind as much as your body, so anxiety and stress fully leave.
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Half Moon Pose

Start by bending your standing leg without lifting the back leg off the floor. Use your whole arm for balance as well, moving the weight of your body forward so it is directly over your front hand and foot. Stay there for a few breaths, allowing the intensity to build in the standing leg until you start to feel solid and stable. Then, press down through the ball and heel of the foot as you direct the center of your kneecap toward the toes. Be sure to turn and open the outer thigh enough to maintain that direction of the knee. Lastly, keep your leg steady as you revolve the shoulders, chest, and abdomen upward.
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Half Standing Forward Fold

Begin in Standing Forward Fold with your hands or fingertips on the floor at the side of each foot. You can also rest your hands on your shins, or press your palms into yoga blocks at the sides of your feet. Inhale as you raise the front of your torso away from your thighs, straightening your elbows. Lift your collarbones and sternum away from the floor. Reach the crown of your head forward and your tailbone behind you. You can bend your knees slightly to help straighten the torso and spine. Press your fingertips or palms into the floor, to help lift and straighten your torso. Lift your head slightly and gaze forward without compressing the neck. Your torso should be straight. If your back rounds, bend your knees or place your hands higher until your spine is straight. Engage your quadriceps (the front thigh muscles) and draw them up toward the ceiling. Do not lock your knees; keep them slightly bent. Bring your weight to the balls of your feet. Keep your hips aligned over your ankles. Slightly lift and lengthen your torso with each inhalation. Hold the pose for up to one minute. Exhale as you release into standing forward fold. Repeat 5-10 times.

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Legs Up The Wall

Lay with your feet against the wall, bottom touching as well, with your arms down to your sides. Take deep breaths to both center your mind and calm down.
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Fish Pose

Begin by lying on your back with arms at your sides. Slide your hands under your buttocks and keep them there. Then inhale and lift your upper back and head off the floor, pressing your forearms and elbows into the floor. You can keep your legs straight out in front of your, bend at the knee or the most complicated- folded like the Lotus pose. While in fish pose, take several breaths and lower torso and head back down.
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Eagle Pose

Begin standing in Mountain Pose with your arms at your sides. Bend your knees. Balance on your right foot and cross your left thigh over your right. Fix your gaze at a point in front of you. Hook the top of your left foot behind your right calf. Balance for one breath. Extend your arms straight in front of your body. Drop your left arm under your right. Bend your elbows, and then raise your forearms perpendicular to the floor. Wrap your arms and hands, and press your palms together (or as close as you can get them). Lift your elbows and reach your fingertips toward the ceiling. Keep your shoulder blades pressing down your back, toward your waist. Square your hips and chest to the front wall. Draw your belly in and up. Gaze at the tips of your thumbs. Breathe smoothly and evenly. Hold for up to one minute, focusing on your breath and keeping your gaze fixed and soft. Gently unwind your arms and legs and return to mountain pose. Repeat on the opposite side.
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If these poses worked for you then check out my bedtime yoga routine too. It helps curve the restlessness so your not anxious and you drift off to sleep in no time.

 

The Fear List

The Fear List

In 2018 I want to get more out of my comfort zone. I won’t learn new values if I just stay in my little bubble.

This list pin points the things I am afraid to do, say, or that make me very uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable is what this post is all about! I need to grow; stop letting my anxiety take a hold of my life and dictate my choices.

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Fear List:
Traveling alone
Eating a meal by myself
Reading in a coffee shop
Writing in a public place
Shopping alone (not including grocery stores, pharmacies, or convenient stores)

I’m terrified to travel alone, i always have been. I worry about things like “what if I get lost?”, “what if I get robbed?”, “what if i get hurt?”, “what if I get kidnapped?” (I think I’m watching too much ID Network). All of these what ifs ping around in my head and stop me from traveling alone.what if I had a great time??

I’m always thinking people are judging me. I don’t think I’m that important at all I just think they’re judging my outfit, hair, makeup of choice (too much or not enough). So for me to sit down anywhere to eat alone brings on a lot of anxiety. My brother said he eats alone all the time and loves it. When I see someone eating alone I aspire to do it too, to tell my anxiety to go play somewhere else.

I want to tackle my reading list this year, it’s growing by the day. I’d love to be able to sit down in a chair at Barnes & Noble to read a few chapters of a new book. I don’t really know why I have a hard time doing this, there are chairs all around so obviously they want you to sit and relax.

I’d love to break out my iPad or laptop at say Starbucks and write a few posts while enjoying the coffee aroma wafting through the air. I feel like those seats are reserved for writers, researchers, and freelancers so who am I to take their seat when they have deadlines to meet and I just have a blog post to write.

I can not shop alone for more than 45 minutes. It’s like my internal clock is like “ok that’s enough, get out of here!”, it’s so frustrating! I really believe this has a lot to do with my trust level. I don’t trust anyone i see in public, i don’t know them. I have no idea what they plan to do that day. I think this is because of all the bad things happening in the news lately.

As you see my anxiety plays a huge roll in my everyday life, it is always present. When it doesn’t show up immediately it does like to make an appearance before things are all said and done.

I’d like to come out of 2018 more confident than ever. I think to do so, I will have to take on challenges (things I see as a challenge anyway), get my hands dirty, and be moderately uncomfortable to make that happen.

Is there something your scared of that you want to depart with this year? I wish you the best of luck too!